Female Dominance or Male Failure? James Thurber illustrates the
male species' status with respect to, "Courtship Through The Ages" with
a humorous and melancholic tone. He emphasizes the lack of success
males experience through courtship rituals and the constant rejection we
endure. Our determination of courting the female with all our "love
displays" may be pointless as it is evident in the repetitive failures of
courtship by all male creatures. Thurber shares his problems with
courtship and the role which men portray, he explores the relationship
between nature and culture, and the demands culture places on men.
Thurber's frustration with the female species is obvious and is reflected
throughout his essay. The extremities males endure to obtain female
attention become overwhelming and incomprehensible to Thurber,
consequently conflicting with the myth and construction of the ideal of
masculinity. Thurber's frustrations with women are evident right from the
start. He displaces male insubordination to the blueprint of nature and
it's "complicated musical comedy." (Rosengarten and Flick, 340) It's
interesting that he attributes nature as a female creator and thus justifying
the relationship that "none of the females of any species she created
cared very much for the males." (p 340) Thurber compares the
similarities of courtship to the complicated works of Encyclopedia
Brittanica. A book which is full of wonders and within lies mysteries of
the unknown and unpredictable. In comparison to the Encyclopedia
Brittanica the female is alike in many ways, such as its perfect
construction and orderly appearance seeming as if they replicate one
another like a clone. I believe Thurber views all female species as being
similar to one another with respect to their character. The author also
associates courtship as a business, a show business. A world which is
chaotic, disorderly and full of confusion much like nature. It is an
aggressive competition between genders in which mother nature
dominates. He also attributes the similarity of constructed rules and
regulations in need of much guidance with the help of a hand manual.
Culture also places demands on males. Males who are lacking in
outer appearance and sexual appeal try to diminish their faults by
acquiring gifts "to win her attention and bring her candy, flowers, and
the furs of animals" (p 340) for the lady in courting. Women's refusals
became men's burden which laid heavily on their shoulders in the social
relationship. "These 'love displays' were being constantly turned down,
insulted, or thrown out of the house." (p 340) This produced the evident
exhaustion of the male species such as the "fiddler crab who had been
standing on tip-toe for eight or ten hours waving a heavy claw in the air is
in pretty bad shape." (p 342) Thurber trivializes the easily bored
female, which leads to actions that seek her attention. "Men had to go in
for somersaults, tilting and lancing, and performing feats of parlor magic,"
and go to "sorrowful lengths to arouse the interest of a lady." (p 340)
This would prevent her from, [going] quietly to sleep." (p 341) He also
reiterates the issue of female desire. Their desires are not sexual but
consume in material possessions. This also supports, "the age-old desire
of the male for the female, the age- old desire of the female to be
amused and entertained." (p 343) Males are displayed as tending to the
every need and want of females, thus portraying the male as a victim or
slave of the female "he never knows how soon the female will demand
heavier presents, such as Roman coins and gold collar buttons." (p 341)
Although females are assisted in tasks by males they pride their
independence, just as the female fiddler crab displayed. "A female fiddler
crab will not tolerate any caveman stuff; she never has and she doesn't
intend to start now." (p 342) Thurber seems quite confused of this idea
but none the less is good humored and willing to try again to understand
courtship rituals. Throughout Thurber's essay he uses the metaphors
of the animals and performer. Just as the male spider is endangering
himself by nearing the female's nest, the artist creates his music by
"going for web-twitching, or strand-vibrating," (p 342) and endangers
himself of being killed by the audience who consumes his art. The
act of violence can be seen as the act of love, metaphorically displayed
by the grebe birds. "The purely loving display is a faint hope of drowning
her or scaring her to death." (p 343) This illustrates his growing hostility
and frustration with women and courtship rituals. Another interpretation
may be revenge upon the ladies for the rejection and the troubles the
male had to go through; therefore, causing him to resent females, yet
returning to the source that caused the anguish. It can also be
understood as the fantasy of power in gender situations. Thurber makes
comparisons to historical and metaphorical presence of animals and
generalizes courtship as disempowering males. We see this display with
the spiders by the violent acts the lady enforces upon the male as in the
lines, "if a male lands on a female's web, she kills him before he has time
to lay down his cane and gloves millions of males were murdered by
ladies they called on." (p 342) Finally, James Thurber ends his essay
with the "mournful burdens of the male," (p 343) and the different
perspectives of courtship and fantasy. He emphasizes male talent and
creativity with the incorporation of the husband quoting a poem. The wife
ignoring the husband as he tries to recant a poem displays the female
short attention span. The female fails to reinforce the males masculinity;
therefore, producing a chaotic and confusing environment where he
suffocates his growth in masculinity. The rejection caused by a female
may be a severe blow to the males pride and ego; henceforth, shattering
his self-confidence and bravado or machoistic image he parades in front
of women. Such as the male fiddler crab displaying his mighty claw for
hours at end hoping to attract the attention of a female fiddler crab.
The author ends his story in a mellow tone. Portraying woman as
heartless people who are always causing men grief. The
men are trying their best to please them in anyway possible, but still
the women refuses his advances. He implies, that although a female
may feel deeply interested, her objective may be elsewhere, as in the
lines, "she sat quietly enough until he was well into the middle of the thing
then suddenly their came a sharp, disconcerting slap it turned out
that all during the male's display, the female had been intent on a circling
mosquito and had finally trapped it between the palms of her hands." (p
344) After this the male felt his pride was hurt and that all his intentions
were for nothing. There after he went to find solace in his drink at the
bar where other men were present, and could relate to his sorrow. Most
of them were familiar with the song "Honey, Honey, Bless Your Heart." (p
344) This song suggests how females can cause such heartbreak and
turmoil among men. Yet, they always come back, thus making us part of
the circle of life.
. issue of female desire. Their desires are not sexual but consume in material possessions. This also supports, "the age-old desire of the male for the female, the age- old desire of the female. displayed as tending to the every need and want of females, thus portraying the male as a victim or slave of the female "he never knows how soon the female will demand heavier presents, such as. collar buttons." (p 341) Although females are assisted in tasks by males they pride their independence, just as the female fiddler crab displayed. "A female fiddler crab will not tolerate